3 Ways Men Trick Women (Instantly Reveal If He’s Manipulating You) Dating Advice

3 Ways Men Trick Women (Instantly Reveal If He’s Manipulating You) Dating Advice

December 2, 2019 76 By Peter Engel


today I’m going to tell you the three most
common things that men will do to try to trick you or manipulate you and gain
control over your relationship and I’m going to tell you exactly how to handle
each one so that you don’t give your power away and instead you have him
whining you more than ever don’t go anywhere because we’re starting
right now hired one I’m dr. Antonio burello and
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missing anything onto how men trick women ok what kind of tricks or
manipulations am I talking about I’m talking about calculated behaviors that
are used to manipulate to intimidate or fool you and cause you to question your
own perceptions in intimate relationships these manipulations are
also used by insecure or controlling partners who wish to change the
direction and experience of a relationship for example a person who
doesn’t feel they’re getting enough attention from their partner might
engage in some manipulative behavior in hopes of creating doubt or fear or
jealousy in the relationship and get the attention back on themselves so in this
case they’re hoping to get something out of it including gaining self-esteem or
confidence in the relationship and besides getting the attention back on
themselves they gain some control and power in the relationship because it
derails you and puts you in a reactive mode instead of focusing on the positive
aspects of a relationship and co-piloting the direction of your
relationship you are in a mode where you’re wondering and questioning and
reacting to whatever chaos or manipulation they’ve tried to engage you
in you lose your power you become a passenger and he’s the pilot but when
you know what’s happening and what to do about it
you’ll maintain your value and have him wanting you more than ever before so
without further ado here are three common manipulations number 1 now I’m so
busy manipulation this love trick happens when you meet a man who looks
like he’s a great catch he’s single he’s successful he’s attractive and charming
and when you begin communicating he appears to be genuinely interested in
knowing who you are he seems authentic open and honest but
he’s also very type A personality he’s career oriented and successful and his
schedule is rather packed with important things like work and colleagues and
travel and friends he’s so busy that you might even feel like you’re compete
for his time nevertheless it feels flattering because he’s such a great
catch and he’s interested in making time to get to know you and the first few
weeks of dating go very well and you feel like he’s genuinely interested in
you and you’re really into him and this is when the manipulation starts just
when he knows that you’re into him and you really like him he becomes a master
of excuses now what does that mean well when he makes plans with you he often
cancels them last minute with excuses he had to work late or he forgot about a
thing he had already scheduled he insists that he wants to see you but he
couldn’t get out of work or family or other obligations and then he doesn’t
seem to be making plans or commitments with you like he did before
instead he calls you at night and last minute and asked to come over to see you
and because you know he’s truly busy you agree because you want to see him as
well but if you continue to allow this to happen
it will eventually become the norm and he will no longer be making you or the
relationship a priority then the relationship moves in the direction and
speed that he wants because you’ve given up your power so how do you handle this
one well again here you’ve got to set some boundaries and not be available for
him at the drop of a head become more scarce and only see him if he’s making
an effort to further develop the relationship by investing his time and
effort into you you can’t allow him to call you later tonight just for sex he
should be making an effort to spend relationship time with you the next time
he tries to call that same night you’ve got to be strong enough to decline his
offer and say no because he should be making an effort to take you on a proper
date so when he calls last minute and asks you’ve got to be willing to
politely decline and offer him an alternative that requires him to make an
investment into the relationship it goes something like this hey what are you up
to I miss you can I come over you need to redirect him and say oh
that’s sweet I miss you too maybe we can go on a date this weekend or say I miss
you too let’s plan an afternoon where we do a B or C and when you do that you are
setting your standard and it’s up to him to meet them if he’s
really into you he will step up and meet your standards oh and I’m sure he will
attempt to call you last minute more than one time so be ready to make him
put up or shut up stick to your standards if he disappears
he’s probably doing you a favor that reminds me are you struggling with
a dating or relationship problem that you need some help with would you like
to get my perspective or opinion on your situation I coach people all over the
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send me an email at antonio burello at icloud.com and perhaps we can work
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number two the I’ve been hurt before manipulation this manipulation is one
that men used to influence you into feeling sorry for them because someone
broke their heart and now they can’t trust again
they use this manipulation as an excuse for it not wanting a commitment while
keeping you on the sidelines feeling sorry for him there are so many people
both men and women who fall into this manipulation and then they voluntarily
overcompensate by doing everything in their power to prove their loyalty and
their love to their new partner and they’re doing this and hoping to soon
gain his trust and commitment and again when you are overcompensating for
someone’s manipulation or trick you are again in reactive mode not the person in
control so think about this as an example let’s say that about a year ago
you had your heart broken by your ex-boyfriend who no longer wanted a
relationship it was devastating and you were hurt
fast-forward to today you’ve met an amazing man you get along so well he
seems to be everything that you’ve ever wanted he’s an amazing catch and he’s
showing you all of the signs that he really likes you he’s investing into the
relationship and he really wants you now you just met this man that’s wonderful
that you really want are you gonna tell him hey I was hurt before I don’t want
to be hurt again so let’s continue to date but you should also date other
women because I don’t want to get hurt again no that’s crazy
certainly you would be cautious with your heart and take things slowly at the
same time when you meet that one special person who turns your world
upside down you’re willing to do whatever it takes to keep that person in
your life whatever fears you might have won’t come close to the fear of losing
the one that you really love so if a man won’t commit to you because he’s afraid
of getting hurt recognize this is the manipulation and let him know that
you’re going to continue to date because after all you want a relationship and
that keeps you in the driver’s seat then move on and find the one that’s afraid
of losing you number three the I’ve been cheated on before jealousy manipulation
this is also a common manipulation that controlling people used to justify and
excuse they’re jealous behaviors again they want you to feel sorry about the
fact that they were cheated on and they use that as justification for why
they’re so possessive and jealous he wants you to rationalize his behavior
and say oh I understand why he’s so jealous
he’s been cheated on but I’m going to prove to him that he can trust me and
you think in time he will trust you and not be so jealous and worried all the
time and that’s a big mistake here again you’ll be overcompensating thinking that
you’ll only have to do this temporarily because he will soon trust you again
you’ve been derailed your behavior is reactive and you’ve given up your power
the good news like most other difficult emotional experiences jealousy that is
motivated by insecurity can be a trigger for growth but that starts with an
honest conversation with yourself and your partner discussing how jealous
behavior is hurting your relationship if you’re dealing with an insecurity issue
working together on the issue could become the first step and increase
self-awareness and greater understandings of yourself and the
relationship but let me make an important distinction jealous feelings
are not equal to jealous behaviors the first is caused by some insecurities
fear or anxiety over the possibility of losing someone but jealous behaviors
those are caused by a need to control and possess your partner there’s a big
difference here so if you’re seeing multiple warning signs or a progressive
pattern developed you should be concerned pathologically jealous
individuals construct these evidence of disloyalty from irrelevant
incidents they refused to change their views even when confronted with
contradicting information and they’re inclined to accuse their partner of
unfaithfulness with many other individuals under this form of jealousy
one of the partners considers that he or she has exclusive ownership over the
other individual and that this ownership is a necessity for preserving the
relationship so be wise trust your instincts and protect yourself if
something doesn’t sound or feel right do what’s best for you and keep yourself
safe that brings me to my next point if you’ve had experiences with a jealous
partner and you’d like to share your example please feel free to leave a
comment sharing your story might be incredibly helpful to someone who’s
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